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12 Struggles Of Having An Outgoing Personality But An Anxious Mind

 

Outgoing people with anxious minds – or minds that overthink – tend to feel anxiety the most intensely, often because we don’t talk about it. And by “often” I mean never.

 

Our anxiety is a contrast to our big, bold personalities. Strangers would never guess it. We never know when to fight or flight, and our self-angst is maxed out. We are often the life of the party but can also be mind-numbingly introspective, questioning everything.

 

1.Our day normally goes something like this: Anxiety: Okay but what if – Me: Homie we went over this a thousand times and we totally resolved it. Anxiety: Yeah but I’ve looked at it from a new angle and there are like 15 more reasons why you should worry about it. Me: ……go on.

 

2.We’re kind of a conundrum because we love people and need to be surrounded by people to be happy, but our over-thinking and our apprehension to immediately trust someone is, in fact, what makes us very selective about who we surround ourselves with.

 

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Advice Fom 30-Year-Old Me To 20-Year-Old Me 

 

I RECENTLY TURNED 30. For some very odd reason I’ve not warmed to the idea of it just yet. However as I began to evaluate my 20s I realised how many mistakes I’ve made and things I’ve learned in a decade of life.

 

I took some time to write myself some advice.

 

1. Travel
You have very little responsibility so go and travel. When you get to 30, you’re going to want to travel slightly differently, spend a little more, do slightly more expensive things, eat at slightly better restaurants. So work for a year and save enough money to experience the world on the cheap.

How do you know what you want to do if you don’t know what’s out there to do?

Don’t just travel to the obvious places.
Travel to the tough places.
Travel to learn.
Travel to discover.
Travel to the places that will challenge who you think you want to be.

 

2. Build things
Don’t spend too much time working on other people’s visions or in other people’s meetings. Spend time figuring out what your own world view is (see point 1) and where you want to take your own life.

Meetings are where ideas go to die.

If you find yourself in a corporate job that you wish you could leave then do it. Leave. If you don’t have a corporate job yet see point 5.

 

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Travelling Through Europe Permanently Is Cheaper Than The 9 - 5 Life

 

WE’VE SEEN TIME AND TIME AGAIN HOW TO WORK ABROAD AND PRODUCE AN INCOME. There’s teaching abroad and seasonal jobs. There’s freelancing and practically any other profession that can be chiefly done online.

However, there are probably still many skeptics out there when it comes to the expenses of travelling. Well, let this stand as proof that if you play your cards right travelling for a living is actually cheaper than living the traditional 9-5 lifestyle.

Now, before you pack your bags, let me break it down for you in terms of rent, food, transportation and your monthly bills. All of these numbers are based on reliable sources online, along with my own life.

 

Rent

Rent in Toronto is no joke, and every month when I sign that cheque, a piece of me dies along with it.

According to a renting guide for Toronto tenants, the average rent for a one-bedroom apartment is approximately $1,250, and $1,500 for a condo. Based on those standards, I’m sitting pretty with a rent of $1,950 for a three-bedroom apartment just outside of the downtown core.

So that’s $650 a month for a Toronto student.

Cities such as New York City and London are even worse, averaging just over $3,000 a month in the Big Apple, and roughly $2,300 in London.

Travelling, on the other hand, could actually be rent-free. There are hostels around the world not only offering free accommodation in return for work, but they also award an allowance to employees. Take Central London Hostel, for example. You can work 36 hours a week in exchange for free accommodation and approximately $185 a month. The work is spread over three days, leaving you with plenty of time to grab extra cash working odd jobs or freelancing.

Not to mention, there’s free accommodation opportunities by volunteering through WWOOF or HelpX.

For those of you not looking to work in a hostel, you can stay in a hostel for about $25 a night practically anywhere, which would cost an average of $750 per month. So, it’s slightly more expensive than my student rent, but still considerably lower than the average renter. Also, I’d probably just take the Central London Hostel gig.

 

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How We Made Our Dream Of Travelling The World A Reality

 

WE MADE A DECISION VERY EARLY in our relationship that we would invest in experiences as opposed to things. Both of us come from humble backgrounds without a trust fund or financial support from our parents. Money was never something that either of our families had a plethora of growing up and was never something that was deemed necessary for success or happiness.

See, the funny thing about money is that it’s never enough. While conversely, the thing with travel is that every dollar you spend on it makes your life richer.

Almost all of our friends and many of our readers have asked us, “So how did you guys do it?” It’s really a simple question that starts with one easy decision. You have to fully accept that you can make anything happen if you want it badly enough. You have to also decide that you aren’t going to be controlled by what is a socially acceptable, “successful” life to live. For some God-awful reason we have let society form norms for our lives that go something like: go to school, graduate, go to college, graduate, get a job, work 40+ hours a week for 51+ weeks every year for the next 40 years, retire, attempt to finally travel and enjoy all of this wealth that you’ve accumulated and pray it doesn’t run out before you die.

But what if we flipped this idea on its head and traveled with little to no money while we are young enough to adventure in any fashion and still impressionable enough to learn something and grow personally with every new city, state, and country we visit? This is what we decided to do. We quit our jobs, sold virtually everything we owned (which wasn’t much), and set out to live our lives for no one other than ourselves. And you know what? It was the best decision we ever made.

 

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What Happens When You Return Home? The Cycle of Travel.

 

You're about to step on a plane and head back home. You find your seat, passport still in hand, and gaze wistfully out the window. Your incredible trip that you spent weeks planning and months longer dreaming about, has finally come to an end. Within just a matter of hours, your feet will be touching down on home turf and that feeling of familiarity slowly sinks in. But deep down, in your heart of hearts, you have an inkling that the open road is where you really belong...

 

Whether you’ve been gone for two weeks, two months or two years, the second your feet touch home soil, you’ll be hit with a confusing emotional cocktail of excitement, confusion and instant nostalgia – because you just know you’re coming back a different person. It’s a shifted perception of the world, an appreciation for how small it really is, how interconnected we all really are. The people you’ve met, both locals and those who shared your adventure, have changed something in you. Call it cheesy AF, but it touches on something like an awakening…

 

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Marry The Girl That Travels

 

The girl who travels spent her teenage years plotting her escape; knowing that the simple life of 9-5 would leave her unfulfilled. Geography lessons excited her; she dreamt that one day she might climb that volcano, see the Great Barrier Reef for herself or step foot on the recently created lava islands that form the Galapagos. She used her mathematical skills to calculate how long it would take her to travel to the places she longed to see and she took GCSE’s in French, Italian AND Spanish to help best prepare for her wanderlust-inspired endeavors

 

She was learning.

 

Dreaming of warmer climates, and under pressure to demonstrate career aspirations in college and university, she explored her opportunities: Travel writer? Holiday rep? Cabin Crew? Entrepreneur? Maybe it was just a pipe dream, or perhaps she dipped her ink in all four. But that wasn’t enough. From the extended girls’ holiday in Malia, 21st birthday celebrations in Vegas and celebrating New Year in Kerala, to doing volunteer work in the Vishas of Buenos Aires, she always searched for more. More culture. More adventure. More excitement. Her experiences helped form her, and she moved further and further away from the child that she was, and closer and closer towards the woman that she is destined to become.

 

She was on a journey.

 

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